SAVING YOUR DEVELOPMENT BUDGET FOR STRUGGLING EMPLOYEES? Invest in Your Strongest Performers for Real ROI

by Leslie Rohonczy, IMC, PCC, Executive Coach & Author

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Think about the strongest performer on your team. When was the last time you deliberately invested in their growth and development?

If it's been a hot minute, that's understandable. Our attention naturally gravitates toward the people who need us most: the employee who's struggling, the new hire who's still finding their feet, or the people navigating conflict, missing deadlines, and falling short of expectations. Those are the situations that feel urgent, and they deserve our attention.

Our highest performers are usually bright, dependable, consistent, and able to solve problems before they ever reach our desks. They deliver what we need when we need it, and they rarely ask for help. And that's exactly where the opportunity begins.

I've become convinced that one of leadership's greatest missed opportunities is failing to keep developing our strongest people. Every leader understands the cost of poor performance: missed deadlines, quality issues, customer complaints, conflict, and a hundred other visible problems that demand our attention every day.

The cost of under-investing in a high performer is much harder to see because it doesn't show up as an urgent crisis. If it does appear on your radar, it'll probably look like unrealized potential: future executives who plateau before anyone notices; high-performing individual contributors who continue troubleshooting instead of learning how to multiply their impact through others; teams that miss the opportunity to learn from people who could have become exceptional mentors, peer coaches, and role models; and organizations that continue benefiting from what these people already know how to do while investing very little in what they might become capable of next.

Most organizations invest significant time and money in courses, conferences, mentoring programs, leadership programs, executive coaching, stretch assignments, and succession planning. The intention is clearly there. But the challenge is knowing where to invest next.

When someone is struggling, the path usually feels obvious. You can see the gap, identify the missing skill, and work together to close it. High performers are different. They're already succeeding, producing excellent work, and they've earned trust. So, it's no surprise that many leaders find themselves wondering, "What exactly would I coach them on?"

I've heard versions of that question many times. "She's forgotten more about finance than I'll ever know." "He's the smartest engineer in the company." "What could I possibly teach someone who's already better than I am?" Those are common, honest questions that reveal one of the biggest misconceptions about leadership development.

There's often another concern sitting just beneath those questions. You may worry that developmental feedback could demotivate someone, especially a high performer who's already succeeding.

In my experience observing hundreds of one-on-one conversations between leaders and their employees over fifteen years, thoughtful developmental feedback is usually received as a meaningful investment in someone's growth. For many high performers, the message isn't, "I'm not good enough." It's, "My leader sees even more potential in me, and is willing to invest in helping me reach it."

Early in our careers, development is largely about building capability. We learn technical skills, improve our communication, strengthen our presentations, become better at delegation, and learn how to navigate conflict. Progress is easy to recognize because we're continually adding new tools to our toolkit.

As we become more experienced, development changes. The work becomes far more reflective. Instead of asking, "What do I need to learn?", the conversation shifts toward questions like:

• What strengths have contributed to my success?

• How do those strengths affect the people around me?

• Where might those strengths be overused?

• What assumptions have become so familiar that I no longer notice them?

• How will the next level of leadership ask something different of me?

Those are leadership conversations. Some of the greatest leadership growth I've seen has come from helping someone see a familiar strength through a completely different lens.

One CEO I worked with realized his decisiveness had gradually begun shutting down healthy debate on the executive team. He wasn't trying to dominate discussions. He was simply moving quickly because that's what had always made him successful. Once he saw the pattern, he began inviting opposing viewpoints before making important decisions. His team became far more engaged, and the quality of their decisions improved.

Another leader discovered she was solving too many problems herself. She genuinely believed she was helping her team. Instead, she was unintentionally preventing them from developing their own judgment. As she experimented with stepping back, her team stepped into greater accountability and performance.

A dependable director prided herself on being indispensable, until she came to realize that she had become the biggest barrier to developing her people. Her greatest contribution was no longer doing more. It was creating opportunities for others to grow. (And bonus, she had more capacity for the strategic work she wanted to do.)

None of these leaders needed fixing. Their strengths simply needed to evolve.

Leadership potential isn't a fixed quantity. Some people are already performing at a remarkably high level, and they still have enormous capacity to grow. They may become your future executives, trusted advisors, exceptional mentors, or the people who elevate the performance of everyone around them, simply because of how they show up.

Current performance tells only part of the story. The more interesting question is how much untapped potential still sits beyond what you're seeing today.

We may know our strongest people still have room to grow, but we aren't sure what to talk about in a one-on-one beyond project updates and performance. If that feels familiar, here are six coaching conversations worth having.

1. Shift the conversation from performance to perspective. Instead of asking, "How's the project going?", ask, "What are you noticing about yourself as a leader that surprised you recently?" or "Where do you think your strengths have the biggest impact on other people?" High performers rarely need help doing the work. They often benefit from understanding the impact they have while doing it.

2. Challenge how they think, not simply what they do. Invite them into conversations where there isn't an obvious answer. Ask them to weigh competing priorities, explore trade-offs, or think several years ahead. Stretching judgment often creates more growth than assigning another project.

3. Help them shift from individual excellence to multiplying others. Ask questions like, "Who else could do this?" or "How could this project become a development opportunity for someone on your team?" Future leaders create results through other people, not just through their own expertise.

4. Coach the impact they have on others. Ask, "What behaviours do you think your colleagues have started copying from you?" or "If everyone on the team approached work exactly the way you do, what would improve, and what challenges might emerge?" Those questions often reveal blind spots that performance reviews never touch.

5. Create room for experimentation. High performers often feel enormous pressure to keep getting everything right. Talk openly about where it's safe to test ideas, challenge assumptions, and learn through experience. Continued growth requires space to experiment, not just expectations to deliver.

6. 6.      Give honest, forward-looking feedback. High performers hear "great job" all the time. What they hear much less often is, "Here's what the next level of leadership will ask of you." Helping someone understand what tomorrow requires can reignite their development in ways praise never will.

If you begin having conversations like these, something important happens: your strongest people continue evolving, your future leaders begin emerging earlier, and your culture becomes stronger because excellence begins multiplying instead of simply performing. And that's an extraordinary return on investment.

Thinking about the recent FIFA World Cup, it strikes me that we don’t ever question why the best players in the world still have coaches. We understand that excellence doesn't maintain itself. It requires continual challenge, fresh perspective, honest feedback, and deliberate development. We see the same pattern in Olympic sport, elite music, aviation, medicine, and business. Brené Brown has spoken openly about the coaches and mentors who've helped her continue growing throughout her career.

Organizations have the same opportunity. Every year, they invest enormous effort closing performance gaps. Far fewer invest the same energy expanding excellence. One protects today's results, and the other builds tomorrow's leaders.

Your next exceptional executive may already be sitting right there on your team. Maybe the next culture influencer is already solving problems just three desks away. Or an extraordinary potential mentor may be excited about an opportunity to help others stretch and grow, too.

The question is no longer whether those people have more potential; it’s: how will you deliberately help them discover it?

YOUR COACHING CHALLENGE

Before your next one-on-one with your strongest performer, resist the temptation to spend the hour reviewing projects and priorities. Spend the conversation exploring who they're becoming instead.

Ask them:

• what they're learning about themselves as a leader

• which of their strengths they'll eventually need to redefine

• where they suspect their biggest blind spot might be

• what future leadership responsibilities will require them to do differently than what made them successful today

Then notice what happens. You may discover you've spent years managing someone's performance, when their greatest opportunity was developing their leadership.

If you're curious about unlocking the next level of leadership potential in your strongest people, I'd love to explore the opportunities with you. Reach out for a free Executive Coaching conversation with me at www.leslierohonczy.com.

LET'S STOP CALLING IT CHANGE RESISTANCE: Mistaking Confusion for Resistance is Solving the Wrong Problem

by Leslie Rohonczy, IMC, PCC, Executive Coach & Author

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"People just don't like change." I've heard that sentence hundreds of times over the years, usually from a frustrated leader trying to explain why an important initiative isn't gaining traction.

I don't buy it. People change all the time. We change jobs, get married, become parents, move across the country, learn new technologies, adapt to reorganizations, new bosses, new colleagues, and entirely new careers. If humans were naturally resistant to change, civilization would have ground to a halt somewhere around the invention of indoor plumbing.

So perhaps we've been diagnosing the wrong problem all along. In my experience, people aren't nearly as resistant to change as leaders imagine. But they ARE resistant to confusion, and that's a big difference.

Imagine you're standing in an airport waiting to board a flight. The departure board suddenly flashes "Gate Changed." No problem. You gather your things and head to the new gate. Now imagine the board starts changing every few minutes. Gate 18. Gate 26. Back to Gate 18. Flight delayed. Actually... on time. Please wait for further announcements. No explanation. No updates. No one seems to know what's happening.

You haven't become resistant to flying; you've become exhausted by trying to make sense of conflicting information. And that's what organizational change often feels like.

One executive I coached was convinced her leadership team was pushing back on a major transformation. "They just won't get on board," she told me. As we unpacked what was happening, a different picture emerged. Different executives were communicating different priorities. Success hadn't been clearly defined. As a result, some teams had already started changing their processes, while others had been told to wait. Timelines shifted weekly. Nobody knew which decisions had actually been made and which were still under discussion. Her team wasn't resisting the future, as she'd thought; they were just trying to survive the present. That distinction completely changes the leadership response.

If we assume people hate change, we tend to push harder. We communicate more frequently; another town hall with another corporate slide deck. We repeat the vision one more time, hoping it'll resonate, and that enthusiasm will eventually take over.

Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of communication. It's a lack of clarity.

Cognitive psychology and neuroscience researchers have long recognized that uncertainty increases cognitive load. When we can't confidently predict what's happening around us, our brains naturally direct more energy to monitoring for risk and filling in the gaps. That leaves us with less mental capacity for creativity, problem-solving, collaboration and learning.

When information is missing, we rarely leave the blanks empty. Our brains naturally want to connect all the bits and pieces of data we do have, by filling in the story with imagined information. It's a normal human response. And we rarely get it right. "I guess my role isn't important anymore." "They've probably already made the decision." "I'd better wait before I commit." "They're changing direction again."

As an executive coach, I spend a surprising amount of time helping leaders separate facts from the stories they've unconsciously constructed. Organizations do exactly the same thing. Confusion is a story factory. The irony is that leaders often perceive these behaviours as evidence that people are resistant or hesitant. People are asking lots of questions, waiting, and not taking initiative. From the leader's perspective, it looks like reluctance. But from the employee's perspective, it feels more like self-protection.

If we're striving to eliminate uncertainty, we're on a fool's errand. It just isn't possible. Markets shift, customers evolve, governments turn over, technology advances, and tactical plans evolve.

What if instead, we focused on eliminating unnecessary confusion. How? By making decisions visible, clearly explaining what is known, what remains uncertain, and when more information will be available, while carefully distinguishing between firm decisions and emerging possibilities. And by transparently acknowledging the ambiguity, rather than masking it with false certainty. And by recognizing that clarity is not achieved through a single announcement, but cultivated through an ongoing, intentional leadership practice.

In coaching conversations, when I hear a leader say, "My team is resisting change," I almost always become curious about something else. I wonder what the team might be confused about. And when I ask that question, it usually leads us somewhere much more useful. Because once confusion is reduced, something remarkable often happens: the resistance starts dissipating on its own.

Perhaps people were never resisting the change. Perhaps they were just trying to find stability as the ground moved under them, before taking the next step. And that is a very human thing to do.

YOUR COACHING CHALLENGE

Choose a current change your team is navigating and set aside 20 minutes to work through this exercise.

1. Write down the change in one clear sentence.

2. List the key areas where confusion might exist. For example: priorities, roles, timelines, decision-making, success measures.

3. For each area, ask yourself: What have I explicitly communicated? What might still be unclear or inconsistent? Where could people be filling in the gaps with their own assumptions?

4. Identify one or two specific actions you can take this week to reduce that confusion, such as clarifying a decision, aligning messaging with your leadership team peers, or naming what is still unknown.

5. Check in with your team and ask them directly: “What feels unclear right now?” Listen without correcting or defending.

6. Reflect on what shifted when you focused on increasing clarity.

If you're curious about creating greater clarity, alignment, and confidence in your leadership team, I'd love to explore it with you. Reach out for a free exploratory Executive Coaching conversation at www.leslierohonczy.com

WE HIRED ROCK STARS. WHY ARE WE STILL STUCK? How Strong Talent Reveals Weak Systems

By Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC

Executive Coach | Leadership Development Expert | Author | Speaker | ©2026 | www.leslierohonczy.com

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On paper, it should be working. You raised the bar on hiring and brought in stronger talent; people who’ve operated at a high level, who aren’t easily rattled, and who get results. You expected lift, and fast!

I've heard versions of the following from leaders through my career: “We upgraded the team… and everything got slower. We need to do a better job recruiting the right people.” That 'diagnosis' sounds reasonable in the moment, especially when results don’t match expectations. But often, it isn’t the recruitment process that’s dropped the ball.

See if any of this sounds familiar: after an infusion of top talent, decisions take longer, time or resources get wasted as work circles back around, and conversations multiply. It can feel like the team got smarter and the work got stuck. This is often the point where the story starts to drift in the wrong direction, as leaders revisit hiring choices or question whether the new talent is as strong as it looked in the interviews. 

How is it possible to have less momentum when there’s more intelligence and experience in the room? Well, intelligence and experience aren’t usually the issue, even though this is the first place most leaders tend to look. In fact, hiring rock star talent doesn’t automatically improve performance; it reveals the limits of the systems that they are stepping into.

When capable people enter an environment where priorities aren’t consistently clear, where decision paths shift depending on who’s involved, and where expectations move midstream, the cracks become visible. They’re strong enough to feel the friction and unwilling to pretend it isn’t there.

Less experienced teams often push through messy systems without questioning them, assuming it’s 'just how things are done around here'. Strong talent does something different; they notice what’s off, they test assumptions, and they slow down when something doesn’t add up. Their hesitation is worth paying attention to, because what you may experience as a slowdown is often a system being exposed, which can feel frustrating until you see what it’s pointing to.

A team isn’t just a group of skilled individuals operating independently; it’s more like a busy airspace. You can have the best pilots in the world flying planes in and out, but without clear signals, defined flight paths, fueling and food service systems that keeps everything moving safely and efficiently, things start to circle, delay, and back up (or worse).

I've observed leadership teams full of smart, seasoned people spend an hour circling a decision that should have taken ten minutes, simply because ownership wasn’t clear and no one was quite sure who had the call. Even with highly capable people in place, an unclear structure will create bottlenecks.

This is where leadership habits begin to show up, especially when things feel messy. The instinct for many leaders is to tighten control by adding another checkpoint, getting more involved in decisions, and increasing oversight. It just feels responsible and accountable in the moment.

But what it often does is force high-performing people to adapt to outdated systems that were never designed for how they think or the high level they're used to operating at. You can almost feel their energy drop when that happens, which is where performance stalls and engagement begins to erode well before it becomes obvious. People still contribute, but with less conviction. They start conserving their energy instead of investing their discretionary effort, and they hold back valuable input and ideas when what's really needed is their best thinking and fresh perspectives.

The better leadership move is to examine the systems and processes those people are working within, rather than managing them more closely. Get curious about:

• Where work slows down for reasons that no longer make sense

• Where decisions are delayed because ownership is unclear

• Where approvals add time without adding value

• Where caution is rewarded more than thoughtful contribution

• Where leadership steps in, when stepping back would actually move things forward

High-performing leaders encourage strong talent to question the systems they inherited, even the ones that once worked well, then simplify decision flow so ideas can flow and influence. They remove unnecessary steps instead of layering unnecessary oversight, and they create space for testing and refinement, knowing that good ideas rarely arrive fully formed.

They also invite challenge and stay in those conversations long enough for something better to emerge. This is where alignment actually develops, through people engaging with each other’s thinking and circling back to a shared understanding of what matters. The role of the leader starts to shift as they spend less time evaluating individuals and more time seeing their team as part of a system that is producing the results they’re getting. When different results are needed, the system itself must evolve.

If the environment isn’t set up to leverage the thinking, experience, and judgment of the new people you’ve hired, you aren’t fully leveraging the investment you’ve made in that talent, and you end up carrying the cost of capability without getting the benefit of it, which is a frustrating place to sit when you know how much potential is there.

So if you’ve raised the bar on talent and you're not seeing the lift you expected, look at the system, because that’s where the real leverage sits. If the airspace feels crowded and slow, don’t coach the pilots to fly harder; upgrade the system of signals, communications, and flight paths so air traffic can move efficiently.

YOUR COACHING CHALLENGE

Set aside 30 minutes this week and take a close look at how work actually moves through your team. Think of your team like a busy airspace. Your goal isn’t to fly every plane. It’s to make the routes, signals, and handoffs clear so everything moves without circling.

Choose one recent decision or project that felt slower or heavier than it should have, then write out how it unfolded step by step, noticing where it paused, where it looped, and where it required rework.

Then reflect on the following questions in a single sitting so you can see the full pattern rather than isolated moments.

1. Where did the system make this harder than it needed to be?

2. Where did I step in, and what impact did that have?

3. Where did someone hold back when they could have pushed forward?

4. What would’ve needed to be different for this to move with more clarity and pace?

You aren’t trying to fix everything in one sitting. You’re experimenting with looking for what’s slowing things down, and once you see it, you can clear the path. That’s how you keep the airspace moving the way it should, to create real lift for your rock stars.

If you notice this pattern in your own team, reach out for a free exploratory Executive Coaching conversation at www.leslierohonczy.com.

LACK OF PRODUCTIVE CONFLICT IS A WARNING SIGNAL: How Politeness Culture Filters Out the Truth

By Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC

Executive Coach | Leadership Development Expert | Author | Speaker | ©2026 | www.leslierohonczy.com

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You’ve likely been in this meeting (and if you’re honest, you may have even been running it). You lay out a direction, walk the group through your thinking, and open the floor. A few people nod as you speak. Someone says 'It makes sense'. Another adds that they are on board and ready to move forward. The tone is smooth, the discussion feels easy, and nothing in the room signals friction. You leave that conversation reassured that you have alignment.

A few weeks later, the energy is different. The work is moving, but not with any real momentum. You find yourself stepping in more than expected, answering questions that shouldn't need your input, and wondering why something that seemed so clear is not gaining traction.

This is usually the point where leaders turn their attention to execution. They start tightening timelines, increasing check-ins, and stepping in more frequently to keep things moving. It feels like a delivery problem that needs more oversight or clearer direction.

But the breakdown did not start in the execution phase. It started earlier, in the meeting itself, when alignment appeared to be present but was never fully established. What looked like agreement, wasn't; it was a group of people making a rapid, often unconscious decision about how to respond in that moment. For some, it may have been about protecting the relationship. For others, it was about not slowing things down, not wanting to challenge too early, or not being certain their perspective would add value. And for some, it was simply easier to agree in the moment and revisit it later, even if that conversation never actually happened.

If this sounds familiar, you're in good company. In Canadian workplaces, politeness shapes how people respond in real time, especially when they are unsure how their input will land. It influences what gets said, how it is said, and in many cases, whether it even gets said at all.

Over time, that creates a gap between what is expressed in the room and what people are actually thinking. Leaders hear support. Teams experience something more complicated.

I recently coached a senior leader who couldn't understand why his teams weren't giving him honest feedback, or bringing forward stronger ideas to challenge the status quo. He had been very clear that he wanted input. He said it often, and he meant it. From his perspective, the invitation was wide open.

From his team’s perspective, they saw it differently. He moved quickly in meetings and responded to ideas as they were raised. He tended to build on what he liked and move past what he did not, often without much pause. He also closed discussions as soon as he felt he had enough to make a decision (which happened faster than he realized). None of his behaviour was aggressive or dismissive; it was just how he liked to operate.

In these conditions he'd created, his team had stopped testing ideas that were not fully formed. They held back perspectives that might have slowed the conversation down. They paid attention to where he seemed to be leaning and aligned themselves accordingly. The meetings stayed smooth, the tone stayed positive, and the appearance of agreement remained intact.

From the outside, the issue is easy to spot. From the inside, it is almost invisible. They were operating within it, shaped by it, adapting to it in real time, like fish that have no awareness of the water they're swimming in. People were no longer bringing their full thinking into the room. They were participating, but in a narrower way; contributing, but without the same level of ownership. They were staying engaged enough to keep things moving while gradually pulling back from conversations that held greater risk.

That shift is easy to miss because it does not create obvious disruption. There are no raised voices, no visible conflict, and no obvious signs that something is wrong. Everything continues to look professional and well-managed.

The cost shows up later, when decisions move forward without the benefit of a broader perspective. Execution starts to stall. Leaders find themselves carrying more of the load than they expected, stepping in to clarify, reinforce, and push things along.

At that point, it is tempting to question commitment, engagement, or capability. More often, the issue is access. Access to what people are actually seeing, thinking, and questioning. Access to the ideas that stayed in someone’s head because the moment did not feel right to share it. Access to the concerns that were softened beyond being recognizable, or left unsaid altogether. When that access narrows, the quality of thinking narrows with it.

This matters even more in the current environment. Canadian organizations are operating with tighter margins, higher expectations, and less room for missteps. Leaders need people who are willing to engage fully, especially when the path forward is not obvious. Politeness, when it goes unchecked, can work against that.

So the question shifts. Instead of wondering why people are not speaking up, it would be more useful to ask what they are responding to in how you lead. Your behaviour sets the conditions for how far others are willing to go. When you jump in within seconds of someone speaking, wrap a discussion before others have weighed in, or signal a preferred direction through your tone or follow-up questions, people notice. They constantly read your pace, your reactions, and your follow-through.

They notice how quickly you respond to ideas and which ones you stay with. They notice whether a differing perspective changes anything or simply gets set aside. They notice how much space there is to think before the conversation moves on.

These signals shape participation far more than any verbal invitation. When people see that their input can influence direction, they lean in. When they don't see that connection, they conserve their effort and contribute in more predictable ways that feel safer. And those conversations, while they may be easier to manage, are ultimately less useful.

Leaders who want stronger engagement often focus on saying the right things: asking for feedback, inviting challenge, and reinforcing candour and openness. Those behaviours matter, of course, but they're not the deciding factor. People are looking for evidence: for moments where input changes the course of a discussion; for signs that it'll be worth the effort to bring forward something that may not land perfectly; for a reason to believe that speaking up will make a difference. That evidence is created in how you handle the conversation, not in how you frame the invitation.

When that evidence is present, you experience a shift. Conversations deepen, and people stay in the discussion longer. When it is not present, politeness fills that space and limits what is shared. Over time, that creates distance between what leaders hear and what their teams are actually thinking. And that distance is where disengagement grows.

YOUR COACHING CHALLENGE

Think about a recent meeting where agreement came quickly; the kind of moment where everyone nodded, and you moved on without resistance.

In your next meeting, when that moment happens again, do something different: Pause the conversation and say, “Before we move on, I want to test something with you. What are we not saying right now?” Then stop talking. Hold the silence. Let the squirmy discomfort show up. Do not rescue the moment, and do not soften the question. This can be harder than it sounds, especially if we're used to a faster pace to a solution.

When someone offers a partial answer, stay with it longer than you normally would. Ask them what else they were considering but chose not to say. Let the room see that 'first layer thinking' isn't enough.

If nothing comes, name that too. Say what you are observing about the speed of agreement, and your curiosity about what might be underneath it.

After the meeting, reflect on what shifted; not just in what was said, but in how the room responded when you disrupted the well-worn pattern. That is where you start to regain access to what is actually in the room.

If you're starting to wonder what's going unsaid in your leadership meetings, that's a conversation worth having. Reach out for a free exploratory Executive Coaching conversation at www.leslierohonczy.com.

THE FEMALE EXODUS: Why Ambitious Women Are Walking Away

Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC, Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Speaker, Author

Something strange is happening in leadership circles.

Talented, ambitious women, the ones who exceed their targets, who juggle the complexities, and make it all look seamless, are quietly stepping away. Not in protest. Not amid scandal. They’re just… done. One day, they’re leading strategy sessions; the next, they’re posting a warm ‘thank-you and goodbye’ on LinkedIn, as they head off into something “new.”

 And you may notice the quiet that usually follows. No raised eyebrows; no real post-mortem. Just another departure, tidily wrapped in gratitude and discretion. But these exits aren’t just personal choices. They’re signals.

 Across Canada, women in senior roles are opting out, not because they lack ambition, but because they’re tired of carrying it alone. They’re stepping back from leadership paths that reward over-functioning and downplay values.

 These departures aren’t dramatic - they’re deliberate. Thoughtful. Carefully curated. And under the polished, optimistic “grateful-for-the-opportunity” posts, something important is happening.

SOMETHING IS SHIFTING

 If it feels like more women are quietly disappearing from leadership pipelines, it’s because they are. According to McKinsey’s Women in the Workplace report (2024), women leaders are exiting their roles at the highest rate ever recorded. Grant Thornton reports that female CEOs in Canada dropped from 28 percent to 19 percent in just one year. A 2023 article in Forbes highlights how misaligned values, persistent bias, and burnout are causing women to step away before they even reach the top.

Yet these stories often go untold. Why? Because most of these women leave well. No drama. No takedowns. Just a respectful goodbye and a professional fade to black.

WHY THEY WALK

Burnout doesn’t always come with a breakdown. Often, it looks like a woman who still shows up, still performs, still keeps the wheels turning, but feels like she’s holding everything together with invisible thread.

She’s the one who gets it done. The one who absorbs the emotional load, smooths the conflict, mentors the junior staff, remembers the context, and catches what others drop. She’s indispensable, until she’s depleted. And when she finally says, “I can’t keep doing this,” it’s not because she’s weak. It’s because she’s done the mental math and realised the cost.

Sometimes there’s a defining moment: the promotion that goes to someone else, the boardroom idea she raised that’s applauded when someone else repeats it. But more often, it’s an accumulation; a slow wearing down. One woman I coach described it as “death by a thousand cuts.” Another said, “I don’t like who I become when I’m working so hard just to be heard.”

More and more women are starting to question whether leadership, as it currently stands, is worth the trade-offs. Whether the relentless pace, the narrow metrics of success, and the unspoken expectations are aligned with the life they want to live.

Many are concluding they’re not.

THE COST OF EXITING GRACEFULLY

Because women are trained to leave respectfully, to minimise disruption, to protect relationships, to make things easier for those left behind, their departures rarely spark reflection.

People assume they left for balance, or family, or something new. But in fact, they didn’t leave to slow down. They left because they weren’t seen. Or because they were asked to stretch further and give more, without the authority or recognition that would make it sustainable.

And when they leave quietly, the system stays the same.

WHAT COACHING CAN OFFER

Executive coaching creates the space to think clearly and make deliberate choices. Some women use coaching to stay on their own terms, by setting new boundaries, recalibrating how they lead, and reconnecting to their purpose. Others realise it’s time to move on, not in defeat, but with clarity and intention. For them, it’s not just ‘what’s next,’ but ‘what’s true for me now?’

Coaching also helps leaders inside organisations to spot the signs that someone is considering an exit. It helps to surface invisible friction points and patterns that never make it into engagement data or exit interviews.

IF YOU’RE READING THIS AND WONDERING…

Maybe you’ve had that quiet internal conversation too: “Am I just tired, or am I ready for something else? Do I still believe in what I’m building here, or am I just holding it together out of habit? If I took away the guilt, would I choose this for myself?”

These are deep, reflective questions that go right to the centre of how we lead, and who we are while doing so.

We need to talk about the exodus, not in whispers, but out loud. We’re not just losing great women; we’re losing the future they could shape if organisations make room for their full leadership presence, not just their performance.

LEADING LEADERS FOR THE FIRST TIME? Your Old Leadership Playbook Just Expired

Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC, Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Speaker, Author

You’ve just been promoted, and you're now leading other leaders. Congratulations!

There’s a moment that comes for every newly minted 'leader of leaders' that’s rarely discussed and seldom taught. Your calendar is fuller, your meetings are longer, and suddenly the job of leading that once felt so natural now feels... oddly slippery.

 You’re still a great leader. But something has shifted. You’ve moved from leading individual contributors to leading other leaders, and that changes everything. It messes with your rhythm, rewrites your role, and forces you to lead in ways that might feel unfamiliar, at least at first.

 Most organizations (even the progressive ones) still treat this promotion like an upward hop, rather than a leadership leap. They assume that the skills that got you here (coaching, prioritizing, and delivering results) will automatically translate to success at the next level.

 But if you're now managing people who manage people, let me be blunt: what got you the promotion is not what will make you successful in the new role.

THE JOB YOU HAD IS GONE.

Let’s name the real challenge: the stuff that made you feel competent, effective, and trusted, like knowing the details, solving problems, jumping in to fix things, can now get in the way.

 You can’t be the fixer anymore. That’s no longer your job. Now, your focus is to grow exceptional leaders who can drive results through their people, while creating the kind of culture others want to be part of.

 Let that land.

 Your value isn’t in knowing everything. It’s in building strong people leaders who can both deliver results and foster inspired, healthy, high-performing teams of their own. That requires a specific mindset shift, some new skills and self-awareness, and healthy doses of humility and self-restraint.

FIVE THINGS THAT MATTER MORE NOW

Based on years of research, coaching leaders and their teams, and delivering in-the-trenches leadership development training, here are five critical shifts for leading other leaders well:

 1. Coaching Matters More

This isn’t about performance feedback. It’s about capacity-building. You’re no longer coaching for technical skill or task execution; you’re coaching leaders to lead. That means helping them think strategically, build trust, hold others accountable, and develop their teams. It’s a different kind of conversation. And it’s the most powerful tool you have.

 2. Thinking Matters More

You’re no longer paid for how much you do; you’re paid for what you think about. This means carving out space for strategic reflection: What’s coming around the corner? What’s not being said? Where are we leaking energy? And yes, that means letting go of firefighting to make room for longer-range, proactive thinking.

 3. Your Example Matters More

If you’re still checking your team’s work, showing up to meetings you should have delegated, or reacting emotionally in a crisis, your managers are learning the wrong things. People don’t just listen to what you say, they watch what you model. What are you unconsciously teaching?

 4. Conversation Matters More

At this level, there are fewer updates and deeper dialogue. Your one-on-ones are coaching conversations, not status reports. Your team meetings build cross-functional trust, and break down silos. Ask more powerful questions; talk less. Create the space where both ideas and people can grow.

 5. Influence Matters More

At this level, your impact isn’t just vertical. It’s lateral and diagonal. How you show up with peers, the way you manage relationships across the organization, and how you model accountability will ripple outward. The power of your new position doesn’t come from proximity to the work; it comes from the strength of your insight and influence.

 COMMON PITFALLS (AND HOW TO AVOID THEM)

From my coaching work and years of delivering leadership development training, here are the five traps newly promoted leaders of leaders fall into most often, and what to do instead:

• Doing Instead of Delegating: Ask yourself daily, “Should I be doing this, or coaching someone else to own it?”

• Managing Individual Contributors Instead of Managers: Step back. Let your managers manage. You’re building capability, not substituting for it.

• Under-Leveraging Your First Team: Treat your leadership team (your peer group) like a team, not a collection of silos. They are your 'first team' now, not your direct reports, and you can leverage the hell out of each other to help you all lead more effectively (see my article on the power of PEER COACHING CIRCLES here).

• Staying Too Operational: In this new role, you're flying at a higher altitude now, which allows you to see further ahead, and take in a wider horizon line. So look up! Think system. Zoom out before you zoom in.

• Hiring Mini-Me’s: Resist the urge to hire people who think and act like you. Diversity of style, thought, and experience makes your team stronger.

A QUICK CHECK-IN FOR NEW LEADERS OF LEADERS

• Are you coaching leadership skills or correcting deliverables? If so, what's driving your need to stay in the weeds? What might help you raise your altitude?

• Do you spend more time on strategy or task triage? How is your natural preference helping or hindering the people leaders reporting to you?

• How are you creating a true leadership team, and not just a collection of people who report to you?

• What behaviours will you intentionally model, to let your managers know what great leadership looks like?

• How might you be helpful, without getting involved in the working level weeds?

 THE SELF-MANAGEMENT SHIFT

At the 'leading leaders' level, the biggest development gap isn’t skill; it’s self-management. It's learning to tolerate the discomfort of not knowing, not jumping in, and not being the hero. And it’s also the shift from delivering value to creating value. From knowing the answer to asking the better question.

That’s not just a promotion. That’s a transformation.

 If you're stepping into the new world of leading leaders, here's your invitation to recalibrate. If you're ready to grow your confidence, build your strategy muscles, and develop the leaders below you, reach out for a free consultation conversation. Let’s make sure you’re ready for one of the biggest mindset shifts you'll ever make in your leadership journey.

WHEN LEADERS FEEL ALONE: A Case for Peer Coaching & Truth Circles

Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC, Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Speaker, Author

Every day, I carve out time to reflect on the leadership challenges my clients are facing, so that I can write about the real, messy, rewarding work of leading with presence, self-awareness, and courage. My hope is that these insights help others navigate the complexities of leadership and life with a little more clarity and a little more heart.

But tonight is different.

It is 10:45 p.m. I just got home from dinner with a dear friend, a senior executive whose words have been echoing in my mind ever since: "I’ve got over 300 people reporting up to me, and some days, I feel like I’m alone on an island, shouting into the wind."

She is not alone. In fact, she is the second leader this week who has shared something similar. Leadership, especially at the top, can be profoundly isolating. You carry the weight of decisions that impact careers, livelihoods, industries, and futures. You absorb pressure from boards, shareholders, regulators, markets, your peers, and your teams. You understand the unspoken expectation that no matter what hits the fan, you will respond with poise, clarity, and good judgment.

While everyone else sees your title, your strategy, and your calm exterior, few ever glimpse the toll it can take on the human being inside.

THE LEADERSHIP ARMOUR

Most senior leaders I work with are superbly competent. Many are also quietly exhausted. They have mastered the art of appearing composed while navigating relentless complexity, protecting others from uncertainty, and showing up as strong, steady, strategic leaders, even when they are carrying the full weight of the unknown on their backs.

The higher you climb up the leadership ladder, the harder it becomes to say simple, human things like "I don’t know," "I am not sure I handled that well," or "I am struggling." Vulnerability may be a popular leadership buzzword right now, but not every boardroom is a psychologically safe place to take off your leadership armour. In some environments, showing uncertainty is still risky business.

So leaders learn to wear the armour. Not because they are inauthentic, but because it feels necessary. Protecting others often comes at the quiet cost of denying themselves. And that cost can be steeper than it looks from the outside.

THE COST OF ISOLATION

Speaking of cost, recent research suggests that leadership loneliness is more common, and more costly, than we may know. A 2023 report by Odgers Berndtson found that one in five employees worldwide feel lonely at work, and nearly half of CEOs report feeling the same way. It is not just about feelings. Loneliness erodes performance, resilience, and well-being, at every level of leadership.

The cost of loneliness is not just personal; it is organisational. Isolated leaders are more likely to second-guess decisions (their own, and others’), are less likely to seek critical feedback, and are slower to course-correct when something is not working.

And leadership isolation does something worse: it dulls instinct. It disconnects leaders from their own wisdom, and from the human signals around them. That’s why creating space for honest sharing without fear of judgment is essential.

PEER COACHING AND TRUTH CIRCLES

A well-structured Peer Coaching Circle is not a gripe session. It is a professionally facilitated conversation where senior leaders drop their armour, share the truth about challenges they are facing, and receive powerful questions and unvarnished insights in return.

Imagine stepping into a circle where, for once, you do not have to perform or protect. A room where your peers meet your honesty not with judgment, but with curiosity. Where questions spark new awareness, and shared wisdom means you walk away with new ideas and solutions to your problem. Where you are reminded that your struggles are not a weakness; they are part of the work of leadership itself.

In these confidential conversations, trust is sacred, peers understand the stakes, and participants are committed to mutual growth and support. They are coaching-based, designed to spark reflection, accountability, and courageous growth. Most importantly, they are deeply humanising: these shared leadership moments of truth remind leaders that their struggles are normal, not shameful.

WHY THEY WORK

Peer Coaching Circles work because they invite participants to share challenges without judgment, and without the layer of armour that often gets in the way. They collapse the exhausting illusion that you are supposed to figure it all out alone and create a shared space where real conversations help leaders grow. They also address what traditional leadership development often misses: that growth is not just about learning new skills; it’s also about dropping old armour that no longer serves you.

Research from the Centre for Creative Leadership (CCL) confirms that peer networks are among the most effective methods for senior leader development, particularly in fostering adaptive leadership, cross-boundary collaboration, and decision-making agility. In one study, CCL found that structured peer learning initiatives significantly outperformed individual learning in terms of sustained behaviour change and performance improvement.

REAL TALK, REAL RESULTS

I have facilitated hundreds of executive coaching circles over the years and have seen what happens when the armour comes off. The dedicated VP who said to his team, "I feel like I have lost my leadership mojo." The seasoned CFO who finally asked, "Why has no one been willing to tell me this?" The newly minted SVP who said, "I’ve tried everything I can think of, but nothing is working."

What followed was not judgment. It was clarity. Support. Cohesion. And next-level leadership.

RE-THINK LEADERSHIP SUPPORT

Leadership doesn’t have to be lonely. We have to stop pretending that senior leaders have all the answers and don’t need support; not just in theory, but in practice.

If you are a senior leader reading this, ask yourself:

• Where do you go to be fully honest, where you do not have to ‘perform’ for others?

• Who holds up the mirror for you when no one else will?

• When was the last time someone challenged your thinking, not your authority?

• How would it feel to be armed with new awareness and real solutions?

If you don’t have answers, maybe it is time to try something different, and find your circle. Even the strongest leaders need a soft place to land occasionally. And in the right circle, with the right people, you will remember: you were never actually alone.

If you are interested in exploring a facilitated Peer Coaching Circle for your leadership team, reach out for a free discovery conversation at www.leslierohonczy.com.

THE DELEGATION UPGRADE: What Most Over-Functioning Leaders Get Wrong (and a Free Tool!)

Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC, Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Speaker, Author

APRIL 2025

You don’t need to delegate more. You need to delegate better. Here's a story that'll explain what I mean.

I was working with a senior VP coaching client and during a discussion about her capacity, we shifted our conversation to the topic of delegation. I told her I had noticed that she was quite proud of her ability to empower her team. “I’m great at delegation,” she told me. “I trust my people. I don’t micromanage.”

Having observed her in action over several weeks during her 1:1s and team meetings, I saw something different: her calendar was jammed with back-to-back meetings; she sent out directive emails at all hours; she regularly worked weekends to fix her team's mistakes, and to catch up on her own work. I also noticed the reaction of her employees, and the impact on her team. Her employees didn’t seem to be confident or engaged and were unwilling to take initiative.

That instinct to ‘do it all’ is called over-functioning – doing the thinking, making the decisions, doing the ‘doing’, then re-doing what was done to meet an unreasonably high standard – all the while believing you’ve 'handed it off'.

My client is not alone. Delegation, and over-functioning in particular, is a common leadership coaching topic. And it doesn’t always look like martyrdom or micromanagement – most of the time, it’s a well-intentioned leader jumping in to help, filling in the blanks, or fixing things behind the scenes. And sometimes, it happens because a leader simply loves the 'doing'. But that pattern comes at a cost – to the leader’s capacity, to the team’s development, and to the overall trust within the team.

If you’re doing all the thinking and troubleshooting, you’re unintentionally teaching your team not to.

Leaders often fall into one of two over-functioning patterns:

• The Martyr: “It’s just easier if I do it myself.”

• The Micromanager: “I know I handed it over, but the output isn’t perfect, so I’ll fix it.”

Both are understandable. Neither actually works long term. So let’s shift the conversation to explore what's driving that behaviour, below the surface.

DELEGATION ISN’T ABOUT 'LETTING GO' OR 'SETTLING'

Here’s a myth that most leaders have been taught: Delegation means taking something off your to-do list and handing it to someone else.

But delegation is much more than that. Real, purposeful delegation is an act of generosity and trust. It’s not just about removing a task from your plate – it’s about staying involved in the right ways.

Let’s look at three common – and very different – delegation missteps that illustrate the cost of getting it wrong.

The scenario: You ask an employee to lead a project review and create a status update to present to the executive team.

Misstep #1: Hand-Off and Hope: You forward the meeting invite and say, “You’re up. Good luck.” They scramble to prepare, unsure of what matters most to the audience or what success looks like. Their output misses the mark, and you end up rewriting the entire presentation the night before. The result? Frustration on both sides and an employee who feels overwhelmed rather than empowered. What’s missing: the leadership scaffolding of clarity, support, and trust.

Misstep #2: Polisher’s Pitfall: Your employee completes their review, creates the report, and sends it back to you. It’s thoughtful, accurate, and 95 percent there, but not quite how you would have done it. Instead of offering constructive feedback or coaching them to close the gap, you quietly rewrite the whole thing to get it “just right.” It may feel efficient in the moment, but the cost is invisible and cumulative: confidence erodes, trust thins, and motivation takes a hit. Over time, your people stop stretching and start playing small.

Misstep #3: Ego Editor: If you’ve ever thought, “I just want to make a few improvements, to put my mark on it”, your edits aren't about quality control – they're about identity and ego. Many leaders unintentionally use editing as a way to demonstrate their value, showcase expertise, or subtly reassert ownership. But the trade-off is that every time you rewrite instead of coach, you send the message that your team’s work isn’t good enough, or that your version is the only one that counts. What starts as helpful becomes harmful. Over time, initiative fades, people disengage, and the team learns that ‘done’ doesn’t mean ‘trusted.’

Now picture a different version of this same scenario: You spend ten minutes upfront with your employee, walking through the context, clarifying expectations, and defining success. When they deliver the work, you don’t rewrite it or put your personal stamp on it – instead, you offer thoughtful questions and clear, actionable feedback that helps them refine, adjust, and learn. You’re not hovering, rescuing, or reasserting your mark – you’re scaffolding. You’re guiding.

When you delegate well, powerful things happen:

• You build trust.

• Your employee gains confidence and capability.

• Your leadership style evolves as you shift from doing to developing, from directing to empowering.

• Delegation becomes less about task completion and more about capability-building and culture-shaping.

This kind of leadership isn’t about perfection. It’s about being okay with 90%, if it means your people are getting stronger, faster, and more confident. It’s about holding the line between quality and growth – and having the courage to let your team take real ownership, even if it’s not perfect. Because that’s what builds future-ready teams. That’s what scales leadership.

To be fair, most senior leaders were never formally taught how to delegate. They built their careers on being high performers – solving problems, delivering results, and executing with speed and precision. These strengths earned them promotions, but once they step into leadership, the very habits that made them successful can begin to backfire.

As a leader, your job is no longer to do the work yourself – it’s to get the work done through others. That means shifting from being the expert who executes to the leader who inspires and enables execution. It’s about creating the conditions where your team can stretch, learn, and deliver, effectively and consistently.

When leaders continue doing it all themselves, they don’t just slow things down – they inadvertently block growth, erode trust, and limit team potential. To lead well, delegation isn’t a luxury – it’s a leadership necessity.

THE EMPOWERED DELEGATION MAP: FIVE QUESTIONS THAT CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING

This simple tool can help you plan your delegation moments more thoughtfully. Whether you're assigning a project, handing over a recurring task, or reflecting on something that didn’t quite land – the Empowered Delegation Map invites you to get intentional.

Here are the four reflection questions:

1. What’s the desired outcome? Be specific. What needs to happen? By when? And why does it matter?

2. What context or guardrails make this safe to delegate? What do they need to know? What decisions are theirs to make? What boundaries matter?

3. What would learning look like – even if it’s imperfect? What’s the stretch zone? What are you willing to tolerate in service of their development?

4. What’s the cost if I keep doing this myself? What’s the impact on your energy, focus, or leadership credibility? And what growth opportunity are they missing?

5. What will I do differently, as a result of this reflection? What new move do you want to experiment with? When will you try this? With whom? What criteria will you use to determine your level of success at this new move?

Try walking through the Empowered Delegation Map in advance of a handoff conversation, or even in retrospect. You might be surprised by what gets revealed through this simple but powerful coaching practice.

BE THE LIGHTHOUSE, NOT THE LIFEGUARD

Effective leaders are like lighthouses. They don’t climb into the boat and start bailing water – they shine a focused beam of light for others to find the hole. They broaden their beam and give enough direction to help the team find their way through a challenging strait. They are steady, anchored, and visible, and they trust their people to navigate with increasing confidence.

The challenging part is that most of us were trained to jump in and prove our value by solving and doing. But empowered delegation means resisting that impulse. It means letting others fumble a bit, so they can build awareness, skill, and capability, and learn important lessons that help them develop. It means learning when to shine a focused beam on something specific – and when to widen the light to illuminate the broader path.

When leaders delegate with clarity and purpose, something powerful happens. Their team stops waiting for direction and starts thinking for themselves. They feel trusted, and they step up in response. Ownership grows. Capacity expands. Leaders begin to spend more time where they create the most value – on strategic priorities – and less time putting out fires.

And there’s a bonus ripple effect: when your direct reports experience empowered delegation, they start to model it too, and before you know it, you’ve helped shift the culture toward greater ownership and trust.

TRY THE DELEGATION MAP – AND SEE WHAT SHIFTS

If you’re ready to delegate in a way that supports your people, strengthens your leadership, and frees up your capacity, download the free Empowered Delegation Map and give it a try. Use it before your next 1:1, during team planning, or even to debrief a delegation moment that didn’t land quite the way you hoped.

You might be surprised by how much shifts – not just in your team, but in your own mindset and habits as a leader.

TAMING THE LONE WOLVES: Transforming Cutthroat Competition into High-Performing Collaboration

Leslie Rohonczy, IMC™, PCC, Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Speaker, Author

A Team That Should Be Winning (but isn’t)

You’ve worked your butt off to build your team. You interviewed multiple high-flyers, chose a select few who rose above the rest, and hired yourself a highly driven, results-oriented team of rock stars. They’re confident, competitive, and relentless in their pursuit of bold goals. Congratulations! On paper, it’s a recipe for record-breaking success.

And yet…

Month after month, instead of celebrating big wins, they miss their targets, and you’re spending your already-squeezed time playing referee in a never-ending cycle of infighting, back-channeling, posturing, and finger-pointing. You’re frustrated. Opportunities are slipping through the cracks. Turnover is up, which means you’ll have to go back out there again, in search of your next unicorn.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

Many teams suffer from a ‘lone wolf’ culture, where individuals operate as fiercely independent agents, more focused on personal wins than collective success. While competition can be a powerful motivator, unchecked rivalry can be fatal. When team members view each other as threats rather than allies, trust erodes, collaboration disappears, and opportunities are lost.

The good news? It doesn’t have to be this way. You can harness that competitive energy and channel it toward team-wide success.

Why Lone Wolf Cultures Persist

Before we dive into solutions, let’s look at why this problem exists in the first place. Lone wolf cultures often emerge because:

1. Incentive Structures That Reward Individual Wins: When promotions, bonuses, and recognition are tied exclusively to individual performance, team members naturally strive for personal success over team outcomes, and efforts to work together may be seen as a distraction or nuisance, rather than a strategic advantage. If leaders don’t actively reward collective achievements over personal achievements, the message you’re sending is clear: winning alone matters more than winning together. Over time, this breeds a cutthroat environment where employees guard their insights, resist collaborating and knowledge-sharing, and view colleagues as competitors rather than allies.

2. Lack of Shared Goals: When success is measured solely by individual KPIs, team members naturally prioritize their own objectives over the broader mission. Without well-defined team goals that require collaboration, individual priorities often clash, inefficiencies rise, and friction becomes inevitable. And don’t kid yourself into thinking that having a few collective goals is enough. If most of the leader’s is focus is on individual targets, employees chase personal wins, often at the expense of the organization’s success. It’s not intentional; it’s human nature. High-performing teams don’t just coexist; they work toward a shared vision that unites individual efforts into a cohesive, results-driven force.

3. Lack of Accountability: And, while we’re on the topic of KPIs and metrics, let’s also look at KBIs: key behavioural indicators. When accountability rests solely on the leader’s shoulders to hold employees accountable, team dynamics suffer. Without clear expectations for team members to hold each other accountable in a constructive way, small frustrations fester into major conflicts. Instead of open, solution-focused conversations, tensions simmer beneath the surface, fueling competition, blame, and disengagement.

4. Scarcity Mindset: When employees believe opportunities, recognition, or resources are in short supply, they default to a survival mode of competition. In environments where promotions are rare, leadership roles are limited, or high-value projects are assigned to a select few, employees can feel pressured to outshine rather than collaborate. This scarcity-driven competition often leads to posturing, hoarding information, withholding support, and prioritizing personal advantage over team cohesion. Without a culture that reinforces abundance (where success is not a zero-sum game), trust erodes and true collaboration becomes nearly impossible.

5. Poor Leadership Reinforcement: Even well-intentioned leaders can inadvertently fuel a lone-wolf culture by rewarding individual achievement over collective success. If company leaders consistently celebrate top performers without acknowledging the team effort behind them, they reinforce a mindset of ‘everyone for themselves.’ And leaders who fail to model collaboration (eg: making unilateral decisions, keeping information siloed, or playing favorites) send a message that teamwork is secondary to individual success. To foster a culture of cooperation, be intentional about how you recognize and reinforce behaviors that strengthen, rather than divide, the team.

6. Fear of Losing Control: Some employees see their expertise, knowledge, or unique skills as their competitive advantage – and resist helping each other succeed because sharing assets feels like a direct threat to their success. Whether it’s withholding key insights, avoiding feedback or mentorship, or resisting teamwork, individuals who fear losing their edge often isolate themselves, unintentionally weakening the team’s overall effectiveness. This fear-driven behavior not only stifles innovation; it also creates an unhealthy dynamic where personal protectionism overrides collective problem-solving. To break this cycle, organizations must emphasize psychological safety – where sharing expertise is seen as a strength, not a risk.

The Cost of a Lone Wolf Culture

A hyper-competitive, cutthroat environment might sound like a high-performance culture to some, but in reality, it can have severe consequences to your bottom line and corporate reputation. Teams that operate in silos often miss out on significant opportunities that are only possible through cross-functional collaboration. Without a cohesive approach, projects stagnate, innovation suffers, and major deals or game-changing breakthroughs slip through the cracks.

Beyond lost opportunities, think about what a slog it is to come to work every day in a culture of lone wolves. Individuals prioritize their own success over the team's; distrust grows along with a toxic work environment; constant infighting, backstabbing, showboating; lack of transparency; and an atmosphere of stress and resentment. No wonder burnout and turnover rates are higher in lone wolf teams. Leaders can find themselves caught in a never-ending cycle of conflict resolution and recruiting, rather than focusing their valuable time on strategic initiatives and growth.

A fragmented team also confuses your clients and stakeholders. When different team members present conflicting strategies or undermine each other, it affects the credibility of the whole team – and its leader. This inconsistency damages trust and can result in lost business and diminished reputation.

Ultimately, a lone wolf culture doesn’t just hinder individual performance, it can cripple an entire organization.

Breaking the Lone Wolf Mentality: Leadership Strategies for Change

Surprise! There’s no quick fix! If your team is stuck in a lone wolf mentality, changing it will require deliberate, overt, and consistent shifts over time: in mindset, structure, and leadership approach.

The first step is redefining success. Instead of measuring performance purely through individual KPIs (key performance indicators), establish shared team goals that reward collective achievements. Celebrating wins as a team fosters a sense of unity and reinforces the idea that success is not a zero-sum game. Leaders should publicly recognize collaborative efforts, highlighting how teamwork contributes to overall success.

BCE Inc., Canada's largest communications company, introduced a comprehensive recognition program in 2021 that celebrated achievements within departments and teams to acknowledge collaborative efforts and foster a culture where teamwork is integral to success. And Canadian athletic apparel and accessories giant Lululemon Athletica implemented a team-based cash bonus program to reward groups for reaching store-specific goals, incentivizing collective performance while strengthening team cohesion and aligning individual efforts with broader organizational objectives.

Beyond KPIs, include a set of KBIs in your performance dashboard: Key Behavioural Indicators. What behaviours will you watch for to let you know your team culture is healthy, employees are engaged, motivated, focused on the right things, and interpreting your strategy and objectives the way you intended? (Check out my ‘Coaching Minute’ video on Key Behavioural Indicators.)

Adjusting incentives and recognition structures is a crucial step in the strategy. Implementing team-based bonuses, peer-nominated awards for collaboration, and recognizing those who contribute to a project rather than just those who close the deal can reshape workplace dynamics. When employees see tangible rewards for working together, mentoring each other, and receiving straightforward feedback that helps them succeed, they become more inclined to share knowledge and resources.

Leadership also plays a pivotal role in shifting the team's mindset. The narrative must change from celebrating individual top performers to spotlighting collaborative successes. Be relentless in looking for ways to reinforce this message. Talk about it at cross-functional meetings, open forums for sharing strategies, and 1:1 coaching sessions focused on EQ growth and career development. As a leader, modeling this behavior by demonstrating your openness, cooperation, and a commitment to collective growth at every opportunity, helps your team adapt to the ‘new way we do things around here now'.

Cultivating a culture of trust is another essential element. Transparency is key – giving employees visibility into projects, expectations, decision-making processes – and even the performance ratings process – helps eliminate secrecy and encourages open dialogue. Group Coaching, Peer Coaching, and Mentorship programs can also bridge gaps between team members, fostering knowledge-sharing and reducing territorial behavior. Addressing conflicts quickly and constructively reinforces the expectation that undermining others will not be tolerated. Equip your employees with training, coaching, and frequent opportunities to practice the ideal team behaviours.

Healthy competition doesn’t have to be eliminated – it just needs to be reframed. Gamifying collaboration through contests that reward joint efforts, rotating leadership roles to prevent hoarding of responsibilities, and creating team challenges can maintain motivation while promoting unity. Providing training on the value of collective intelligence can further reinforce why working together is more powerful than operating alone.

What the Research Says About Collaborative Teams

A recent Harvard Business Review study found that companies with strong collaboration cultures outperform their competitors by 27% in revenue growth. Another study by the Corporate Leadership Council revealed that top-performing teams spend 50% more time sharing best practices than their lower-performing counterparts. And a 2022 study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that teams engaging in collaborative problem-solving exhibited a 20% increase in performance metrics compared to those working individually. A 2023 report by Deloitte highlighted that organizations fostering a culture of collaboration were five times more likely to experience high performance.

The message is clear: Teams that work together, win together.

Turning Lone Wolves into a Winning Pack

A fiercely competitive team may look strong on the surface, but if they’re constantly undermining each other, they’re losing more than they’re winning. The highest-performing teams aren’t just a collection of individual stars – they’re a well-oiled machine that balances competition with collaboration.

As a leader, your role isn’t just to drive numbers – it’s to build a sustainable, high-performing culture. That means shifting the narrative from ‘me vs. them’ to ‘us vs. the challenge.’ It means rewarding teamwork as much as individual success. And it means leading by example.

The lone wolf era is over. It’s time to build a pack that wins together.

Need Help Shifting Your Team Culture?

If your team is struggling with internal competition and missed targets, let’s talk. As an executive coach specializing in leadership development and team dynamics, I help leaders build high-performing team cultures that drive results. Schedule a consultation today at www.leslierohonczy.com.

SUCCESSFUL MERGERS: How Coaching Transforms Change from the Inside Out

Corporate mergers are high-stakes, high-pressure events that can determine the trajectory of an organization for years to come. Yet, despite the billions spent on due diligence, integration planning, and cultural assessments, one critical factor remains underutilized: executive coaching. Research consistently shows that leadership development and coaching during mergers lead to better financial outcomes, smoother transitions, and stronger organizational alignment. So why do so many companies ignore this powerful tool when they need it most?

The High Cost of Overlooking Leadership Development in Mergers

Organizations often delay investing in leadership development and coaching during a merger due to the belief that there is "no time for coaching now." However, prioritizing executive coaching during a merger can actually save time and money, mitigate integration challenges, and enhance long-term success. Consider these research-backed insights:

Cost Reduction

• Reduced Integration Costs: Poorly managed mergers can increase costs by 15-30% due to inefficiencies (EY, 2022). Leadership coaching helps teams anticipate challenges, resolve conflicts efficiently, and minimize redundancies (McKinsey, 2021).

• Return on Investment (ROI): The ICF Global Coaching Study reports an average coaching ROI of 5.7 times the initial investment. PwC’s analysis indicates an ROI of seven times the cost of employing a coach.

• Turnover Reduction: Misaligned cultures and uncertainty during mergers lead to higher turnover. Leadership coaching improves engagement, reducing turnover by up to 40% and saving replacement costs, which can be 1.5 to 2 times an employee’s annual salary (Harvard Business Review).

Efficiency Gains

• Improved Productivity: According to the International Coach Federation (ICF), 70% of coaching clients report improved work performance, and 51% note enhanced team effectiveness.

• Accelerated Decision-Making: Leaders receiving coaching are 86% more likely to make effective, timely decisions (Leadership Quarterly), preventing costly delays.

• Faster Integration Timelines: Companies with strong leadership during mergers report up to 22% faster integration timelines (McKinsey, 2021).

• Reduced Inefficiencies: Leadership alignment initiatives can reduce post-merger inefficiencies by 30% (Deloitte, 2022).

Change Management & Culture Integration

• Increased Likelihood of Success: Research by Boston Consulting Group shows that coaching senior leaders boosts the probability of successful transformations by over 70%.

• Stronger Stakeholder Confidence: Organizations demonstrating proactive leadership during mergers experience 20% higher stakeholder confidence (Boston Consulting Group, 2022).

• Cultural Alignment: Up to 70% of mergers fail due to cultural incompatibility (Deloitte, 2020). Leadership coaching helps integrate differing corporate cultures, unifying teams toward a shared vision.

• Higher Employee Retention: Companies prioritizing leadership coaching during mergers experience 40% higher employee retention rates (Boston Consulting Group, 2023).

Leadership Development: The Key to a Unified Strategy

• Stronger Leadership Strategies: Mergers with aligned leadership are 33% more likely to achieve their objectives (PwC, 2022).

• Better Team Performance: Executive coaching has been shown to increase team performance by 50%, fostering better communication and collaboration.

• Collaboration Gains: Harvard Business Review (2021) found that executive coaching programs led to a 70% improvement in cross-functional team collaboration during mergers.

• Increased Leadership Confidence: 95% of leaders report better utilization of new leadership behaviors after coaching, and 94% report increased confidence (International Coaching Federation).

• Improved Integration Outcomes: Companies investing in leadership development during mergers see a 25% improvement in integration outcomes (McKinsey, 2023).

Research on Executive Coaching in Mergers

If you’re still skeptical about the power of coaching in mergers, consider these groundbreaking studies:

• "Coming Together: A Grounded Theory Study of the Role of Coaching in the Mergers & Acquisitions Process" (2021) – Heiki Thomas & Jonathan Passmore found that coaching mitigates pressures and tensions, improving leadership, culture, and communication (CoachHub).

• "Guiding Through Turbulent Times: Coaching During Merger and Acquisition" (2024) – This qualitative study highlights how coaching supports employees in coping with merger transitions (Taylor & Francis Online).

• "Leadership Strategies for Improving Mergers and Acquisitions Performance" (2020) – Walden University research underscores the necessity of leadership development for post-merger integration success (Walden ScholarWorks).

• "Why a Winning Leadership Team Matters for M&A Strategy" (2022) – Korn Ferry identifies leadership development as a key predictor of M&A success, reinforcing the need for executive coaching (Korn Ferry).

Make Coaching Your Competitive Advantage

Organizations that invest in executive coaching during mergers are better positioned to reduce costs, improve efficiency, and accelerate integration timelines. Coaching equips leaders with the skills to navigate complexity, drive performance, and inspire their teams through uncertainty.

The question isn't whether you can afford to invest in leadership coaching—it’s whether you can afford not to.

If your organization is navigating a merger or acquisition, and you’re looking to align, integrate, and thrive in this high-stakes transition, let’s connect. Book a discovery call today to explore how executive coaching can be your secret weapon for merger success.